Archives for the month of: October, 2011

There is the moment when you wake up and the day brings you the realization that you have reached the place where you wanted to be.  It feels like an “overnight success”; all of a sudden, there you are with the results that you wanted and all is well.

But it is all of the vitamins you took, each day, one by one, that built the new cells.

It was  standing firm on your convictions, each day, that brought you the present certainty.

It was the risks that you bravely engaged that has you standing on courage.

And it is the knowing that the on the other side of  struggle is victory, the other side of heartache is happiness and the grieving of disappointments paves the way for  new ambition.

Energy anew, it all comes together.  It is a process, a moderation of life experiences, a mentoring of the self, the help of those who believe in you, that brings you, once around, again, to a new beginning.

It feels like overnight, it feels swift, when the energy shifts.  Be sure to credit yourself for the process you were brave enough to begin with the recognition of patterned behaviors that were of no value to you that you were brave enough to end.


When I watch a good drama, for me, the most moving scenes are those where a conversation is held in silence;  expressive eyes, a turn of the head, a mouth softened or hardened, a gesture.  These are communications, yes, but the silence says more.

Observing silence is a good thing.  Interpreting silence may not be.

I have a friend.  She is lovely.  She has been in my life a long time.  What I know about her is that she has opinions.  She does not always give them.   While I listen to what she is expressing verbally, I also listen to what she is not expressing.

I do not assume that I know the contents of her unexpressed.  When I have a question, I ask.  Before I ask, I gauge if the timing is right.  I don’t want to invade her with my questioning.  I only want to have a gentle inquiry with her because I want our friendship to deepen as a consequence of my inquiry.  I want to know her more and I never want her to feel less.

Speaking into silence is an art.  It is yet another elevated communication skill.  The leader who does not get a reaction to a suggested new policy may want to penetrate the silence.  This is delicate.  Taking a swan dive into the silence requires elegance.  A plunge into the silence is exactly that; a plunge, a push.  An inquiry that is thought out and executed with style may reveal a surprising acceptance vs. an assumed disapproval.

Silence is a language.  It speaks.  Having a conversation with silence creates a whole new world of possibility.  It requires a new code of ethics and patience.  It supports us being very grown up;  ego-less,  modest and forthright.

Listen to the silence.  Respect the silence.  Gently, carefully, probe beneath the surface  to see what is underneath  and experience the lesson that is available to you.

There is a voice beneath the silence.  It wants to be heard.